January has a familiar rhythm.
You know the moves.
Decide.
Commit.
Get clear.
You’ve done it all before.
A lifetime of new roles, new plans, and new solutions.
In those earlier chapters, clarity came from effort.
From thinking harder.
From planning more.
From pushing through.
Effort compounded. Results followed.
Until—often quietly—they didn’t.
Nothing broke.
Nothing blew up.
No crisis forced a decision.
Life kept working.
Often because you kept carrying it.
Time blurred because nothing really ended—it just continued.
The year filled with ongoing commitments instead of milestones.
Projects extended across quarters. Then years.
Work slipped into evenings. Calls happened when they shouldn’t—not because things were urgent, but because you were reliable, because you knew how to handle it, because you’d always been the one who didn’t drop the ball.
From the outside, everything still looks fine.
But inside, something is changing.
The strategies that used to respond to effort aren’t responding.
You think more, but insight doesn’t deepen.
You plan harder, but momentum doesn’t return.
You push for clarity, and all you feel is fatigue.
The work keeps happening, but nothing moves.
You’re busy, engaged, capable—and strangely stuck.
You revisit the same questions from different angles.
You’re no longer where you were.
And no longer certain where you want to be.
This is the moment most people misread—especially in midlife.
They assume it’s a “crisis.”
That the problem is discipline.
Or motivation.
So they double down.
New systems.
New goals.
New frameworks.
More urgency applied to a life that still works—but no longer fits.
But what’s actually happening this time may be different.
You’re not unclear because you’re not working hard enough.
You’re unclear because the version of you that built this life is no longer the version living inside it. Your expertise keeps pulling you back toward familiar patterns, roles, and expectations—even as they stop matching who you are becoming.
Clarity doesn’t arrive here through force.
It arrives through recognition.
A system can be successful and still be wrong now.
Competence can quietly turn into confinement.
Staying can begin to cost more than leaving, because staying requires you to keep overriding yourself.
Maybe this time clarity feels elusive because you’re asking effort-based questions of an identity-based shift.
Questions like:
What should I do next?
Which option is smartest?
What’s the right move?
They work when alignment and ambition point in the same direction.
And stop working when alignment changes.
What replaces them isn’t an answer.
It’s a signal.
A dull resistance.
A quiet disengagement.
It’s not a failure of vision.
It’s an early signal of a tipping point—the kind that doesn’t announce itself loudly enough to justify action, but won’t let you go back either.
Most people try to rush past that moment.
They treat it like fog to power through instead of awareness to listen to.
That’s an instinct worth resisting.
This may not be the year you figure everything out.
It may be the year you stop pretending effort alone will.
Afterword: Paying Attention Again |
Before anything changes, something else usually returns first: attention.
Not answers. Not direction.
Just a quieter awareness of what’s already asking for notice.
I’m often asked what to do once you stop forcing clarity.
My answer is usually disappointing at first:
don’t do more—do less. And do it deliberately.
I recently came across a simple exercise in Chris Robinson’s book Drift to Drive.
He suggests holding five simple questions each day—not to solve anything, but to notice what’s already present:
- What do I need to read today?
- What do I need to listen to today?
- Who do I need to call today?
- What do I need to do today?
- What am I looking for today?
It does something subtle.
It helps you pay attention again.
No answers for the year.
No five-year plan.
Just today.
— Mark Wigginton
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📬 MarkW@FocusingOnResults.com
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